Thursday, June 29, 2017

Permission To Pause

I was running as fast as I can...and I stumbled. I'm picking the pieces up slowly and heading back up to walk straight again. Now that I'm given another chance to live a full life with my loved ones, and I am going to take every effort to live life as it should. I will find joy in every step of my days.

I will beat this!

Wednesday, December 21, 2016

This Mama Wins Everytime!

Yesterday I was searching through my blog about a post I did when the kids were little. I was just simply reminiscing a bit. One thing leads to another; I fell into an endless rabbit hole. I was happily reading through years of blog posts when the children were still under my control. I mean that in a way when I used to decide where we're eating, where we're going, and what we're doing for any given day, week, or moment. Now, each of them wants different things to eat, see, and do. Often I get aggravated. There's no easy compromising, either. One will negotiate saying it was your choice last week, and now it's my turn, but only then another would add that he/she will take over each other's chores if he/she gets the say. I wish all these are done in a civil discussion way, but more like in a shouting and annoying each other way. Nothing gets resolved until I just choose one that seems to be the easiest choice, but of course, that would mean pissing off the other two. Sigh.

That was just a small sampling of a day in my life as a mom of two teen boys and a tween girl. Come to think of it; I am happy that they still want to hang with the ole' mama and baba. Every week my whole family looks forward to a few hours of simple togetherness over dinner. This once-a-week family tradition fills up my emotional gas tank that keeps me going until the next one comes.  So, yes - I will take any of that petty argument amongst my children on what & where we should go because after all, the argument is about where they want to be with the family. I WIN WHEREVER THAT MAY BE.

Sunday, July 19, 2015

#MySugarShorts Video: NYC Summer Blogger Conferences Finds

I've been wanting to launch my new video series of sweet faves and what better way to start this when I am fresh from all the summer blogging conferences and events at New York City. I've only chosen four products to include on here since I still have yet to go through my entire swag bags from Blogher15, BloggerBash, Getting Gorgeous, KidzVuz, and My Printly, all of which are events I attended here in NYC. (Yes, I'm still here as I wrote and made this quick video with my MacAir).

I hope to continue in making more #MySugarShorts videos and hopefully turn it into a weekly segment. So stay tuned,

Products mentioned here were:

Coca-Cola pouch & personalized can

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

Oh, that Beth Rosen!

How we normally are. For real! Hihi
February may be a short month, but I packed it up with so many projects and I am tired and at the same time still walking around with the happy intoxication of it all.

My list of "must blog about" here in SugarMyBowl is getting longer, but before I dig myself out of deeper ground, I'd like to take a moment and talk about my business partner, Beth Rosen.

On February 17th, Beth and I held our 3rd annual Women Driving Excellence (not to mention that this was just one of the many other projects we are also currently working on). The day went by seamlessly and overjoyed with the sounding result of all the hard work that we placed on it. It wasn't an easy task, but I appreciated the months of perfecting all the little details and even with the uncontrollable goof-ups that came around to try and stop us dead in our tracks. I guess you can say that we have learned a lot together after doing it for several years now.

Beth Rosen and I didn't let anything stop us. I smile at thinking back on how well we dealt with handling unpleasant situations. The massive printing schedule errors, the edits and re-edits of the creatives, the approval of funds, and more... You can imagine that we had to be constantly on-the-go and must stay focused on what we need done, but when there are two overactive people with two hyperactive brains - combustion happens. We butt heads so much that I'm surprised we still have our necks attached. There were many days I wished I kept my composure and not blasted on Beth and wished she didn't blast on me. Even with all that, I am still convinced that we have the perfect partnership.

On different tones, but always in sync! No, we have not
launched a singing career. Just fooling around for pic sake. lol
The thing is, we're both so passionate about our work that butting heads were a constant activity for us, but only to high-five on the end with sounding results on our work. We learn from each other so much, and I believe that is what's making us grow as a business and as an entrepreneur. So with that said, I like us the way we are. Well - we can be better, but without the excitement of butting heads mean we're probably not having any business and I'd rather we butt heads - A LOT! Haha.

Even stripped off our work titles and just being moms and friends that we are - I can't imagine not having Beth around me. There's so much about her that I admire. She's funny, smart, witty, and, more importantly, a beautiful mom. We laugh so much together! Not too many people know how she's been in the social media game long before a lot of us have been tinkering online. Did you know that she ran the first podcast show on NBC and was the original FM radio personality of the Mom Talk Radio? Search it up and you will see tons of Chicago Tribune articles all about it. A trailblazer! I'm so proud of her for that.

As we were talking on the phone today, Beth said - "you know me, I'm not that easy to work with". She was talking about a situation where she was noticing the lack of details. Deep down I laughed. Because it is perfectly the kind of person I'd rather be with. Someone who can keep it real and be as anal as I am when it comes to detail. It's been an incredible few years of #ChicagonistaLIVE and Women Driving Excellence partnership with Beth. I can't wait to do more!

Check out some of some of the fun pics we took over the years...
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Monday, February 23, 2015

Surprise! We got her good!

My youngest child turned 8 years old a few days ago and it just dawned on my husband and me that we've never given her a birthday party with her friends before. Sure - we celebrate it with family every year, but we've never planned one outside of the home just like what we did with our older boys. No need to tell you that we went all out especially with our firstborn. I'm sure many of you can relate!

So yeah, guilt made me decide to throw her an impromptu party with her friends. First off, I needed something quick and easy but still fun for the kids. Something I can manage while I happen to be working on one of my biggest annual project, but that's a whole other story. Will probably write about that in the next few days.

I called our favorite "Girls Day" (our own Mommy & Me Sundays) sweet spot called Flirty Cupcakes and boom - we were set without a hitch! I don't believe I had this much fun planning an event and I do plan quite a lot of those! Those who know me well would understand what I meant by that. Anyway, dealing with Flirty Cupcakes was a piece of cake...or maybe I should say a piece of cupcake. Not to mention - YUMMY! Thanks to Flirty Cupcakes who assisted me with it all. I texted back and forth with owner, Tiffany, while she's vacationing in some remote island. I'm thankful to her patience and also sorry that she had to deal with me on her vacation. So if you're in Chicago, you should go check them out!

The girls decorated their own cupcakes, laughed, danced, and laughed some more. My little girl was so happy and all the little sweet giggly smiles from her friends melted my heart into pieces. Thank goodness for the guilt trip! Hah!

Just in case you are wondering - No, this is NOT a compensated post. We just happen to be true fans of Flirty Cupcakes!

Check out this video from today:

Monday, February 02, 2015

Bring On The Blizzard!

It was a perfect Sunday for us.

 My kids and I couldn't wait to get dumped on with snow! Just a few blocks from our house is a big beautiful hill that has brought in so much fun for the kids. We go there for kiting on summers and sledding on winters! As soon as we heard  of a major blizzard forecast coming to the city, we started gathering our gears and even called friends to meet there. Today's snow did not disappoint (has been snowing non-stop for the last 24 hours) and to make things even more perfect for the kids - their school called off tomorrow! SNOW DAY!

We're supposed to end up with 18 inches of snow all together. How exciting! Ask me again after those pure white snow turns into mushy and yucky and I'm sure to complain instead. But OH, the fun memories we are making for our kids...

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Tuesday, December 30, 2014

All About The Books - No Trouble!

My Bedside Table
It's been awhile since I've bought actual books for myself. As in YEARS! All the books I am devouring currently are on my iPad downloaded through iTunes. I miss it. Books. Real books. The feel and look of the cover, the flipping of pages, and the intoxicating scent of the book's ink, adhesive, and paper combined. Probably one of the big reasons why I can never clear my bedside stack of books. Strange as it may sound, at times I crack one open just to sniff. I should move them to the bookshelves with the rest of books. No, not just yet.

Yesterday I started sorting through them. Organizing them all accordingly between stacks of fiction, business, and self-help. Memories flooded in. I remember excitedly leafing through the pregnancy books as soon as we found out we were expecting, the many nights I stayed up reading a novel, and of course the countless hours spent in bookstores with my husband perusing through new titles to bring home and feed my addiction.

It's been too long since I've had those feelings. Now I read the books on my iPad with fewer emotions. I enjoy them, but it's not the same. It's sad, and I can't make myself go back into buying and carrying heavy books again.

My teen son's collection of books
Naturally when I started having babies my book shopping list has turned me to the children's section. I enjoyed every minute spent reading to them, but longed to know for myself again. They didn't show much interest in reading. Running around, TV, and the computer was king in their heads. No matter how much I tried to make reading fun. What a bummer! I never gave up though. I kept on buying books and even read book reviews out loud, hoping they will decide to finally pick it up on their own. Award-winning kid books piled on and I waited.

When I least expected it, it finally happened. I never thought it would come, but just recently my almost 15-year-old teen son has been indulging on great books.  So you can imagine how elated I was to see how content flopped down on the couch to read on.  I couldn't even believe that he's already read about seven books since school started in the Fall. He was just recently finished Eleanor & Park, The Kite Runner, and Night by Elie Weisel. Right now he's reading Bound Feet And Western Dress. I couldn't be prouder with his choices of books! Now, my 12-year-old middle son is also starting to show interest and borrowed a book to start with. His older brother always had that much influence on him. I hope it spurs a passion for reading more.

My daughter's new love
Without much coaxing, my 7 year old little girl has always shown a lot of interest in reading and writing. Just this past 2 weeks she had her nose planted on her Heidi Hekelbeck books and just began reading The One And Only Ivan. Even surrounded with her most favorite Christmas toys, she's been busy with her new love.

It won't be long now until I start reading my collection of vintage Barbie books with her. Yes, Barbie. But not just any Barbie books. These were 1960s hardbound printed books that I was hooked on in my elementary years. When I was pregnant with my baby girl, I told my husband about my Barbie books obsessions then. Secretly my husband went eBay hunting for them and even completed the collection. It was the sweetest gesture of all!  Right now they're sitting on one of our bookshelves and I can't wait for her to get started with them.
The 1960s  Vintage Barbie books
Although I can never indulge myself with buying new books ever again, I have the three kids to book shop for!  Every penny spent on books is no trouble at all. No trouble!
1960 Vintage Barbie Book - Inside
BTW - if you have any suggestions on books to read, please leave me a comment. I'm always on a lookout for books to read especially for my little girl.

Sunday, December 21, 2014

My Girl

The kids are now home on Christmas vacation and also FINALLY well from the terrible wrath of cold and cough that the whole family endured for over 2 weeks. Glad to finally kick sickness' booty off this household!

So yesterday was truly the first day I was able to take my little girl out all to myself. The boys were busy playing with their friends so off I went to swoop my little miss to our Girls Day. It won't be long now before she find girlfriends to hang out with and so I'm enjoying every single second of this. One day I'd like to go on a mini-vacation with her. Maybe when she becomes a teenager. Sigh.

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Monday, November 17, 2014

It's been 20 years but we're just beginning!

I dreamed of this exact same scenario when we first got married in 1994: to build a memorable family tradition that we will stick with. Our tradition is to travel the same spots we honeymooned in every 10 years of our marriage with our growing family. This is our 20th anniversary and marks our 2nd  decennial family celebration and the whole thing went without a hitch. Well, ok - except with the constant arguing with the kids and kids arguing with each other,  but all in was mission accomplished!

Our trip was to Los Angeles, Hawaii, and then San Francisco before we head back home to Chicago for an almost month-long trip. We were exhausted but content. It was fun to get kids excited and making sure we hit certain marks and stay on plan. And you know, we're really just beginning because 2024, 2034, 2044 are still coming adding on grandkids in those future pictures, too. I'm giggly as I think of what the years ahead will bring.

While I took hundreds of pictures and videos, I also had fun watching my teen son, Christian, create our vacation videos. Armed with his Sony NEX, Go Pro, iPhone5s, and some shots from my Nikon D7100, I watched him handle his devices with ease. He also dabbled with Final Cut Pro and I was quite impressed with what he made from our trip below. You have no idea the kind of relief I feel knowing that he's documenting our trips. That was usually my job! Watch what he made below.

I can't wait to see what 2024 will bring for us but I can truly say that I am grateful and blessed to have such a wonderful husband who created our family filled with so much love.

Below is a compilation of all our social shares during our trip. I enjoy sharing them with my friends and families but for the most part, this blog has always been a place where our family visit ourselves to always remember all the fun.

**More pictures by clicking below

Monday, July 28, 2014

My #DTour of a Lifetime to Asia!

Disclosure: I am one of the official #DTourist assigned to scour the continent of Asia to inspire travel there. There are six of us from around the world and each of us is assigned a continent. To read more about #DTOUR with DoubleTree by Hilton

In Wanzhou, China - climbed up and down a beautiful mountain!
A couple months has passed since I got back from Asia from my whirlwind #DTour trip but not a day has gone by without me thinking and referencing back to what I've learned and absorbed from my trip. If someone had told me that I will be seeing 7 countries, over 15 cities, 14 flights, and over 28,000 miles (that's like 73 time of flights from NY to LA) within 31 nights in Asia. 31 nights! - I would probably think that it's not possible to do. But I did! That's truly insane. That's not even counting the many hours spent traveling on land and on foot! There were times when I had about 3-4 hours ride to my next destination and oh, how can I forget? There were countless hours spent walking and climbing mountains!

Here are a couple of VERY QUICK videos that will play right after another:

As you can imagine, my schedules were packed. I was guided by a DoubleTree by Hilton employee from breakfast at 7am up to as late as 1am. I spent about 3-4 days in each DoubleTree property scouring everything around it and the I moved on to another property destination. Yes, I was exhausted - but who has time for that when I have the world to see! While I was there to work and document via social media along the way, it didn't even feel like work at all. I was transported to lands I've always just imagined in my head. I've seen them in the news, movies, and read many Asian books romanticizing and it all and I have to say, every single moment was even better than I imagined. In the end, I captured over 4000 photos and of course, took a lot for my Instagram, too. Check them all out below.

My Top 10 Moments with #DTOUR Asia

  1. Visiting two Seven Wonders of The World within my 31 Nights of #DTour to Asia: The Great Wall of China and Taj Mahal.
  2. Walking up the Great Wall of China and realizing the many battles fought on that very spot between the Mongols & the Hans.
  3. Seeing and walking in the Emerald Buddha Temple in Bangkok made me re-watch the Anna and the King movie. Imagined ancient Siam everywhere in Wat Phrakaew.
  4. The mystical sort of emotion that I felt walking thru the Great Falls in Wanzhou and in to the QuanYin Temple and seeing 31 huge buddhas in a row with monks chanting.
  5. Eating in Malaysia! The many culinary choices from the multiple ethnic cultures that makes Malaysia is really exciting. I could live to eat there!
  6. Visiting the Ancient Village of Ciqikou in Chongqing and stepping in a Royal Servant's old courtyard made me feel like I was in some movie set.
  7. Imagining the life inside the Forbidden City while touring it and now planning in re-watching The Last Emperor movie.
  8. Eating (Peking Duck where it all began - Beijing) in a 100 year old restaurant in Beijing.
  9. Seeing and learning more about the old glamour and beauty of Shanghai at a museum inside the Pearl Oriental Tower.
  10. Prayed for my family's health and blessed in a Buddhist Temple, Hindu Temples, and an ancient Catholic Church throughout 4 Asian countries. 

Couple things I learned about myself:

  1. I'd rather not exactly know how we're getting there. If I had known that we will be climbing mountains for a couple of hours, I would've probably said NO - thank you. But glad I didn't get a chance to decide on many things in Asia and just went to do it.
  2. I really love all sorts of food. Unless something is moving on my plate I am bound to try and taste it. I don't have to like it but that's the adventurous part of me thinking I'd miss out if I don't at least give it a chance.
  3. I love hearing locals talk about what they really love about their own city and like a sponge, I notice how much I can absorb and submerge myself in what they see/feel.
  4. I cringe when I hear Americans act like they are the center of the universe when visiting other countries. Those folks do not represent us well in US. 
  5. I don't hate airports! Best place to people watch in different countries.
All the posts I wrote for (Lots of other pics & videos there)

Kuala Lumpur: An Unforgettable Experience in Malaysia 

The Mountain City of Wanzhou, China
Chongqing, China: A Peek in a Royal Servant’s Home During the Qing Dynasty
First #DTour Day in Beijing China: Forbidden City [pics & video]

**Make sure to check out more pictures