Tuesday, July 10, 2007

My Dear Hair


Maybe it is just me, but every time around 4-6 months postpartum I slowly shed the beautiful and luscious mane I normally benefit from each pregnancies. Well -- it is that time again. It is that time that when I comb, shampoo, rinse or even simply just run my fingers through my hair I always end up with clumps of hair in my hand. It is that time that I second look at myself in the mirror to see if that wad of hair resulted in a bald spot. It is that time to bid adieu to the only thing that has kept me feeling at least a bit attractive as I waddled my way through until the end of the pregnancy. And to ease the pain of this gradual loss, I would like to write a letter to my hair.

Dear Beautiful and Luscious Hair,

Do you know how much you will be missed? Do you know how much it meant to me that you kept me looking descent on those many days I was feeling ill from being knocked up? I actually took many fabulous pictures of you, even colored and styled you like never before. Heck, I even convinced my husband to take a professional picture with the whole family and thank goodness he went along. Your memory will now be immortalized on the new frames that will don my family room wall. And in there, I can look at you everyday and say – damn, you looked awesome in those pictures.

Actually, I truly didn’t expect you to stay around. I knew that around this time you are leaving me. I just hope that you had enjoyed your stay and know that you were treated very well. And with that in mind – I thought it would be ok to ask you a big favor.

Would it be too much to ask if you take some fat with you on your way out? Only then I can truly feel ok and finally move on.

Hoping,
MJ aka Sugarmama

How ironic is it that the one you want is so hard to keep, and the one you don’t want is so hard to lose.

11 comments:

Ivy said...

Hi SugarMama! I came upon your blog today via a link on Rice Daddies. I too am a Pilipina mama with a 6.5 month old baby boy. Anyway, just wanted to say that I can totally relate to your post. I'm currently experiencing post partum hair loss myself. I've always been a tad bit vain when it comes to my hair so everytime I see a wad of strands come out, I cry a little inside. Thick beautiful hair, how I miss you!

Pinks & Blues Girls said...

So funny.. I totally know what you mean. I found you through Blonde Blogger (love her!)... I just had my 3rd son 3 months ago... my other 2 guys are almost 2 and 3... so my hair has been through the RINGER for the last 3 years! Weird thing too... I went from pin straight hair to wavy and now - borderline curly??
Odd... gotta' love hormones!!
Love your blog!!
- Audrey
Pinks & Blues Girls

Irene said...

Yeah, yeah I'm not supposed to be on the Internet but I'm waiting for a conference call and am stressed. So, I turned to you and another blog to ease my stress.

Here is my 2 cents about the hair. If you continue to take prenatal vitamins, it helps lessen the hair fall out. I still take them to this day and my hair is thicker than it was prepregnancy and only slightly thinner than when I was preggers. You can use the Walgreens prenatal vitamins. Ok ok, I'm getting off already!

Irene said...

Yeah, yeah I'm not supposed to be on the Internet but I'm waiting for a conference call and am stressed. So, I turned to you and another blog to ease my stress.

Here is my 2 cents about the hair. If you continue to take prenatal vitamins, it helps lessen the hair fall out. I still take them to this day and my hair is thicker than it was prepregnancy and only slightly thinner than when I was preggers. You can use the Walgreens prenatal vitamins. Ok ok, I'm getting off already!

jenn said...

oh goodness, you make me laugh!

I had great hair before being pregnant but it was terrible while I was preggers. Now it's kind of in between. I have good days and bad.

*sigh*

maria said...

My, my, it's been so long since I've been preggy... (almost 14 years)but yes, I remembered losing a lot of hair. In fact, I had to cut it semi-bald just to save it. Took me a loooong time to get it back, and even then I'd have split ends. I got lucky when I came here. Apparently, the shampoo I was using was causing my hair to dry out, so I changed it and now, I got a pretty much long hair... at least until I get tired of it :p I still lose some every spring, don't know why but it's been pretty consistent.

ablondeblogger said...

Aww, thx, Audrey! Love you, too! :)

MJ, you are so right about this! It's kind of like all the food that's good to eat makes you fat and the food that's nasty tasting is good for you. Not fair!

Dee said...

it doesn't get any better when you get to my age!!! I am phasing out the long hair ever so slowly

cheh said...

hehehe 'How ironic is it that the one you want is so hard to keep, and the one you don’t want is so hard to lose' this is very true! know what? am having the same problem still*sigh*

la dra said...

so funny! And it's not jsut you- it's the loss of the preggo hormones. My hair turned so curly during the last part of my pregnancy-- like a perm! Now it's back to my normal frizzy shag of hair.

Sugarmama said...

I went ahead and chopped all mine off last month in a pixie cut, figuring that in another 4 months when I have my own third baby I won't have time to mess with it anyway. If it's growing in all thick and luxurious right now I can't tell, so hopefully I also won't notice when it begins to fall out!