My Middle Child

This morning I was able to take my 4 year old to breakfast. Just him "my over-theatrical, uber-independent, middle child" and I. 30 minutes before waking him up for school, I snuggled and lightly fell asleep with him in his bed. He woke up in a great mood and went directly to shower like I told him so. My older son (my firstborn) is still sound asleep, drugged up with cold medicines. My 8 month old girl also sleeping soundly after finally recovering from a bad cold and catching up from many days and nights of not enough sleep.

I was able to shampoo and soap my 4 year old in the shower. Even towel-dried, dressed, and blow-dried his hair. He's not too sure what to do with all this undivided attention since I don't think he ever really remember having me all to himself this long. But one thing for sure is that he looks happy and unbelievably cooperative this morning. So cooperative that we had lots of time to go out for breakfast! He ate well (so unlike his many mornings) and happily sipped his hot cocoa. I love watching his happy face uninterruptedly.

My husband and I have always said how much more difficult he is compared to our firstborn. How he is so much more independent and how he is so much more theatrical. And I've always known why. Why? Because when he was born, he was dragged around everywhere to all of his older brother's activities. Cheering for Goh-Goh (older brother in Cantonese) on hockey games, soccer games, piano recitals, etc. When he was finally old enough to play in a soccer team, I remember losing it and crying while watching him play and running to the other side of the field to watch his older brother play at the same time in a different game. I felt terrible that I couldn't stay put and watch just his game like I did for my older son when he first played. And when our 3rd baby was born, he learned even more so in fending for himself. But because of all this, he is the most forgiving and caring child. Unconditionally forgiving with his goh-goh (older brother), and his parents, and the most adorably caring with his moy-moy (younger sister). In our eyes, and our hearts - he is our "perfect" middle child.

Today he was treated like he was an only child, and I hope to get another chance to do it all over again.

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Cross-posted at the Chicago Mom Blogs

My Millisecond Of Fame

I may be a D-Lister in bloggywood, but I am still considered a blogelebrity you know! Just wanna share with you guys on some little mentions of my blog and I within the last few months:

in Babble.com's Strollerderby column

in Chicago Sun Times

ooooh and I just found out --- I am the Featured Blog of the week at
TheMomSalon.com ---- wooooohoooo!

Rest assured that I won't be showing my Britney anytime soon - but don't hate me if I reveal my boobies via youtube since the Breast Festivities are here.

Many awesome mommies are certainly taking the stand in breastfeeding, just like my new found breast friend "fidget" who is nursing live today. So the next time someone says that my baby "suck" then I will have to say so proudly - "Damn right she does! "

Want a live appearance from this blogelebrity? Just say FOOD - and I'm there! No papparazzis please.

Dreading "the talk"

I was once a sex toy company owner and so you would think that talking about sex to my child should come liberating and easy. I want to be able to talk to my child openly about sex and sexual health, but honestly - I can't make myself do it. According to some articles in the Internet, these talks should happen between parents and kids around 6-8 years old. So when my son turned 6 last year I decided to finally do the deed that needs to get done. But before charging on I needed some guidance. So I got gung-ho and enthusiastically researched on materials I can use to read or view with him that can hopefully help get my points across.

I decided to finally purchase this book called "Where Did I Come From?” online. It had some great reviews everywhere, so it must be really good. As soon as I received it in the mail, I excitedly browsed and read through it quickly. I was shocked and now unsure if this is the right time to be talking to my child about sex just yet. I hid the book in home office book shelf and it has been sitting there for a year now. How can I possibly read that book to my child without getting embarrassed? Here are some excerpts from the book.

"The beginning of baby
....and they hug each other very tight. And after a while, the man's penis becomes stiff and hard, much bigger than it usually is. It gets bigger because it has a lot of work to do..............And to get really close the best thing to do is lie on top of her and put his penis inside her, into her vagina.

Making Love
...The man pushes his penis up and down and inside the woman's vagina, so that both the tickly parts are being rubbed against each other . It's like scratching an itch, but a lot nicer."

Now tell me - am I the only one that thinks this is way too much information for children? And for those that have had the chance to do this with your children, how did you exactly approach this topic? And how old were your children then, and how did they respond to it? Eventually I will have to do this so I hope that some of you can enlighten me of a better or gentler way of talking about sex to your children for the first time.

Also, here is a very entertaining German version of their own Where babies come from.

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Cross-posted @ ChicagoMomsBlog.com